Pet loss, myth no 5

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Hello everyone. Continuing on from the myths of animal bereavement, today I’m talking about myth no 5: it’s just an animal, so it’s better to live my mourning in silence.

From a young age, our parents, or a figure of authority, tell us when we cry: be strong, don’t cry,  It is not beautiful to cry, Calm down.

It’s wrong and expressing it adds heaviness to the lives of others. And it’s inappropriate to express our emotions in front of others.
Confining to silence, these comments do not help our feeling of guilt generated by these comments, which reproduce from generation to generation. A guilt that remains present in you as soon as you experience a sad emotion, or anger.

Thus, the human being steeped in tinplate this guilt remains in silence with his emotions.

it is proven by medicine that to keep our emotions inside of us leads the body to develop diseases. Research in meta-medicine has been talking about it for more than 30 years.

So, despite your guilt over your emotions of sadness, of anger, I invite you to express your emotions, because it is essential. It is for your health to get out of isolation so as not to remain in pain.

Since there is a lot of taboo on animal mourning, I invite you to do it the right way, that is, to talk about it to people who will not judge you. Those who have already experienced similar grief, to a therapist who believes in it.

If you don’t choose the right people, you risk being told these insanities, which will only accentuate your feeling of sorrow and isolation.

So, what happens when you don’t choose the right person to speak to? You end up saying, like most people, ‘ they don’t care, they don’t understand’.  But guess what? Your right, they don’t and that is ok. Does everybody understand everything, every emotions? No, as i mention in another article, everyone is different, so therefore, every experience is unique, as your grief.

Need any help? Talk, don’t cry alone, it’s not good for you.


Brigitte Bérubé
Humanist therapist, grief specialist

Brigitte Bérubé

Brigitte Bérubé

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