Hello to all of you today, I’m talking about the impact of losing your pet.
To have a pet is to tame its presence, its character, its habits, its routine. He asks for organization when you take holidays, when there are parties. The presence of a person in a couple, a baby being born.
Considering that the average life of the animals is 10-15 years, it makes moments in the life where it is present.
Why does animal bereavement come across all sorts of emotions?
-It brings a presence
-It brings comfort
-He keeps you healthy
-It loves you unconditionally
What is unconditional love?
These are ties that are consciously and unconsciously woven between you too. This affective bond helps to give a role. I am the one who watches over you. I take care of this living being as if his life depends on me.
Feeding, housing, securing, caring and loving. You are his repentant. You are investing in this unconditional relationship.
He’s happy, even if you’re grumpy. For him you exist, it gives you meaning to your life. In his eyes you exist. And today, in this universe of communication, people feel more and more alone. You go home, and it’s there. He is reliable and his love is equal and constant.
In general, relationships between human beings are conditional. Were wearing social masks where you play different characters, but not with your pet. With him you are yourself. You know that you will be loved so by this ball of love. Often people are more authentic with them than with humans.
It is a relationship where you show your vulnerability. Have you ever hidden to cry before your pet? No! He is present in your trials, he is faithful, he remains there when you cry.
This is how when our animal dies, the routine change in an instant. Everything we did together, now I do it alone. I no longer have this unconditional love, this reward which fulfilled my basic need: love.
To whom do I turn when my best friend is dead?
I find that the first moment we wake up the next morning and realize that he is no longer there, the most painful. And you what is the hardest time?
The rhythm of mourning does not correspond to our life today. Some people will tell you to mourn. They will put a deadline where you are supposed to have finished. It creates anxiety and anger as well as confusion where you no longer recognize yourself.
Some will try not to think about it. If I do not think of it I will not have any trouble and I will not feel the lack of death. But when you think of it, you cut yourself off from death, but also from all that he brought to you.
To mourn is to make the choice to return with what it implies: the suffering of loss.
In the next article, I will talk about the work of mourning. I will not give you the solution, how to get out right away, because I want to make you understand this work and its steps.
specialised in animal bereavement