1st: Put words
As I tell you from the beginning of my articles, you have to talk, put words on the guilt that you carry. Staying in silence will only poison you and maintain that guilt and affect every aspect of your life. Whether in writing or by exchange with another person.
2nd: Find someone to talk to
It’s about finding someone who will not judge you in your anger, your guilt. Finding the right person is a protective mechanism. Not everyone is able to listen and find the right words in mourning. People because they do not know what to say say: nothing or insanities or clumsy words that hurt more and the consequence is that you risk closing yourself on yourself and staying alone with your mourning, your suffering, then you will get frustrated with those around you because you do not feel supported.
3rd: Play sports, walk, move
Unwind in the sport. Air your brain to free yourself from the anger and guilt that takes up a lot of space in your head and manifests itself in your body. Dance.
4th Do not fight
Do not resist this feeling of guilt. As soon as it comes to the surface, take a moment to feel and say: I live guilty to the death of my pet. Home will have more positive effects than trying to fight it.
5th: Make the choice
Make the conscious choice, rational not to feel guilty. To stop clashing at them with blame. Be aware of what belongs to you and what is out of your control.
6th: Go to consult
Are you caught in your guilt? It does not move? It’s poisoning your life? Consult a grieving specialist to help you get through this difficult time of grief and unblock and continue your grieving work.
There is a positive side to guilt, it gives lessons. It allows us to realize our limits as human beings. To see everything I did for my pet and what I will not do anymore.
For example: I was very present in the end-of-life accompaniment of my pet, I will never give friable bone to my dog. I will put a fence.
And you, what did you do to get out of your guilt?
To succeed in freeing oneself from guilt is the reward of self-freedom, an act of self-love.